1. A new study suggests that when parents think about money, they feel like their parenting is less meaningful
2. Research suggests that to increase levels of fulfillment, parents should keep parenting activities and money-making activities as separate as possible
3. This is one of a series of recent findings about parenting and happiness. For instance, recent research has shown that fathers tend to be happier than men without children, but mothers are not happier than women without children
Source: Society for Personality and Social Psychology. “Another reason to not mix work, family: Money makes parenting less meaningful, study suggests.”
1. People are the key to professional, personal and social success
2. Relationships are a choice
3. Articulate what you want
4. Engage with people in mutual support for mutual success
5. Generosity and service to others is the starting point of outreach
6. Keep a lifeline group to hold you accountable
7. Be willing to regularly take a vulnerable look at yourself
8. Make a plan to reach out to others
9. Relationships aren’t a set of activities; they are a lifestyle
10. You have a duty to be a teacher, not just a pupil
A key tenet of our approach is that business relationships and personal relationships are in essence the same (BR = PR). The book Disarming Cupid by the editors of Scientific American discusses several scientifically proven ways to enhance romantic relationships. What is interesting about it is that most of the techniques can be used in a non-romantic and even professional context. Some of my favorite findings:
Excitement. Researchers such as Arthur Aron of Stony Brook show that people bond emotionally through exercise, adventure or exposure to dangerous situations
Proximity. Researchers like Leon Festinger show that just being around someone tends to create positive feelings towards that person
Similarity. Researchers like Dan Ariely of Duke University show that people tend to pair off with those similar in attractiveness, intelligence and background
Humor. Researchers like Jeanette and Robert Lauer have showed that in long term, happy relationships, partners make each other laugh a lot
Self-disclosure. Researchers such as Arthur Aron show that people tend to become closer when they share secrets with each other
Check out the book Disarming Cupid for more great insights!
1. A new study out of Britain suggests that singing in a choir can be good for our psychological well-being.
2.The study found that people who sang in choirs reported statistically significant higher well-being than people who sang alone.
3. Choral singers also found their choirs more “meaningful” than other social groups like sports teams.
1. An international study by economists has found that once income reaches a certain level ($36,000, adjusted for Purchasing Power Parity) life satisfaction levels peaks, after which it appears to dip slightly in very rich countries.
2. The researchers suggest the “happiness dip” in the wealthiest countries is because more money creates higher aspirations, leading to disappointment and a drop in satisfaction if those aspirations aren’t met.
3. One researcher states: “In other words, what we aspire to becomes a moving target and one which moves away faster in the richest countries, causing the dip in happiness we see in our analysis.”
Source: Eugenio Proto, Aldo Rustichini. A Reassessment of the Relationship between GDP and Life Satisfaction. PLoS ONE, 2013
Over the years, I’ve presented to about a quarter of a million people from all walks of life, from people just starting out in their career to CEOs of some of the largest corporations in the world. But the themes I talk about to all groups are similar and sound like something out of a 1950s motivational best seller
Make the world a better place.
Capture the power of relationships.
Improve your life.
What’s kept me going all these years and what is likely to provide energy long into the future are the stories of people that actually make it happen. A continuous source of energy has been provided by Jeremy Thomas, a salesperson in Singapore, whose exploits fill many pages of my upcoming book Everybody Sells. But recently he’s outdone himself. The desire to make the world a better place, expand his network and improve his life spurred him to create a charity event to support a Thai orphanage. He expanded his network by engaging clients in local businesses to sponsor his effort. To improve his own life, he formulated the charity event as a bicycle event culminating in a visit to the orphanage. In the process, he provided support for a group of people that needed it most, created a social bond with local community leaders, and improved his own fitness.
So as we approach American Thanksgiving, I just wanted to express how thankful I am for people like Jeremy, for taking the challenge and making a difference.
Check out a brief of video of him riding into the orphanage below…
1. Social networks may be more important than individual intelligence in creating strong societies, according to a University of British Columbia study.
2. The study suggests that a large and connected population is crucial to develop more sophisticated technologies and cultural knowledge.
3. “This is the first study to demonstrate in a laboratory setting what archaeologists and evolutionary theorists have long suggested: that there is an important link between a society’s sociality and the sophistication of its technology,” said one researcher.
Source: M. Muthukrishna, B. W. Shulman, V. Vasilescu, J. Henrich.Sociality influences cultural complexity. Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences
1. New research suggests putting a human face on the campaign for a social cause actually increases support for it.
2. Researchers found that anthropomorphizing social causes is effective because it appeals to people’s sense of guilt.
3. Researchers point out that it is hard to induce pro-social behaviors because the responsibility is spread out across society. Putting a human face on pro-social behavior can be an inexpensive way to gain more support.
Source: Helping Fellow Beings: Anthropomorphized Social Causes and the Role of Anticipatory Guilt. Psychological Science, 2013