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Some rules of thumb I live by

  1. People are the key to professional, personal and social success
  2. Relationships are a choice
  3. Articulate what you want
  4. Engage with people in mutual support for mutual success
  5. Generosity and service to others is the starting point for outreach
  6. Keep a lifeline group to hold you accountable
  7. Be willing to regularly take a vulnerable look at yourself
  8. Work your plan to reach out to others
  9. Relationships aren’t a set of activities; they are a lifestyle
  10. You have a duty to be a teacher, not just a pupil

BR = PR

A key tenet of our approach is that business relationships and personal relationships are in essence the same (BR = PR). The book Disarming Cupid by the editors of Scientific American discusses several scientifically proven ways to enhance romantic relationships. What is interesting about it is that most of the techniques can be used in a non-romantic and even professional context. Some of my favorite findings:

  1. Excitement. Researchers such as Arthur Aron of Stony Brook show that people bond emotionally through exercise, adventure or exposure to dangerous situations
  2. Proximity. Researchers like Leon Festinger show that just being around someone tends to create positive feelings towards that person
  3. Similarity. Researchers like Dan Ariely of Duke University show that people tend to pair off with those similar in attractiveness, intelligence and background
  4. Humor. Researchers like Jeanette and Robert Lauer have showed that in long term, happy relationships, partners make each other laugh a lot
  5. Self-disclosure. Researchers such as Arthur Aron show that people tend to become closer when they share secrets with each other

Check out the book Disarming Cupid for more great insights!